Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Exit, Stage Left


SWISH. That's how I feel right now. Like a basketball shot clean through the center of the hoop. Its after-wind whistling through the net...rippling those nylon diamonds as it drops and rolls across the court to uncharted destinations.

Yikes! The saga of G.G. continues. In my last post, I wrote: G.G. left behind a husband who doesn't even know she's gone. Doesn't know his own name. Doesn't even remember that she existed. They told him she had passed. He doesn't know the difference between G.G.'s death and stuffed eggplant.

I was so wrong. Me. The one who's spent countless hours studying recollections people have of what transpired around them when they were unconscious, sedated or in Near Death Experience. I've read enough case studies from medical journals to know that there is a high incidence of recorded cases where people could quote, verbatim, what was said or done. Enough to know that, despite being in the last stages of Alzheimer's in a coma and on hospice, G.G.'s husband, T.G., could comprehend the that she was gone.

When my brother told T.G. that she had passed, he also told him that if she was the reason he was holding on to life, he could let go now. And after G.G.'s memorial service, he went back to tell T.G. that we had held a memorial for her and had honored his life at the same time. All of their mutual friends and family were there, as was his hospice worker, and it just seemed fitting. Less than 8 hours later, T.G. left his body.

Since he and G.G. met, he had always bobbed along behind in her determined wake. It was like she made one last grand exit, spun on her heels, and with a haughty SWISH of her cape, wrapped it around him and...ZOOM...they were gone. Both in less than a week. Leaving together in death as in life.

I'm the one left standing here with eggplant all over my face. Thanks, T.G., for the wake up call. Bon Voyage...but I have a feeling I'll hear from you again.

19 comments:

Stephanie said...

Wow. My condolences on your loss.

Mrsupole said...

Love transends everything, if you have ever seen the movie "The Notebook" then you would see a reverse of this story, but still the same story. There is a connection when two people love each other and have loved each other for many years. And their's was a love story, no matter how mean she was.

Thank you for sharing this with us.

My condolences to you and the family.

God bless.

Realliveman said...

Loss is always sad to hear about, but you can rejoice in the fast that this is not all their is. In fact this is just the beginning.

My condolences.

Susan at Stony River said...

Wow, what an amazing exit they've made. What an image you painted of it! I'm glad they're together and at peace anyhow, no more tumours, no more Alzheimer's.

It's amazing what we discover about each other.

Ronda Laveen said...

Stephanie: Thank you, Oregon girl.

Sherry: I have not seen that movie. My mom died of Alzheimer's too so it is not one I'm ready to watch. Yes, G.G. and T.G. Did love each other very much. When they met each other, boom. Well...you saw how it ended, with them together.

Realliveman: Yes, it is just the beginning. Thanks.

Susan at Stony River: What we discover about each other on this Earthwalk IS truly amazing.

tattytiara said...

Wow. Your "swish" sounds like the absolute perfect descriptor. That's the magic of people - no matter what or how much they lose, one thing they never lose is the ability to surprise you.

Ronda Laveen said...

tattytiara: The element of surprise is underestimated isn't it?

Eternally Distracted said...

WOW, wasn't expecting that this morning... reunited after a week, can't ask for fairer than that can you? :)

Unseen Rajasthan said...

Beautiful and lovely post !! Nice shot !!

otin said...

That is really spooky in a way! I hope that they are reunited somehow.

Reya Mellicker said...

You don't have eggplant on your face. Holding your own while standing at the Gate is tough even for the most spiritually pure, such as yourself. You are still embodied, so certain assumptions help you stay in your body while others fly past, back and forth.

Sending strong, clean, dark, fertile ancient earth energy to help ground you after this crazy week.

And love.

I dreamed about you last night. Will send an email. xx

Dorraine said...

Awww, I'm so sorry, Ronda. At least they are together now after that last swish of her cape. Your words just seared the images.

VE said...

A mesmerizing read. Sorry to hear about the loss...

Together We Save said...

So sorry for your loss.

Ronda Laveen said...

E.D.: No, it doesn't get any fairer than that.

Unseen Raj: Thanks for the laugh!

Otin: Yep, kinda spooky but I'm sure they are together. I have no doubt in my mind.

Reya: You are right! It is all about the Earthwalk this time around isn't it? I can feel the energy...especially the dark, fertile, ancient energy. Feels grounding and Egyptian.

Dorraine: It felt exactly like that when he left. Like she just whipped that baby around him and flew off. Crazy.

VE: I felt mesmerized. Thanks.

Together: Thank you.

DUTA said...

Life is more strange than fiction. We could never be sure that those that are in a coma or have alzheimer don't feel anything that's going on around them.
Be strong Ronda!

JGH said...

Amazing, Ronda. I've always wondered about this.

When my husbands grandmother's sister died, his family refused to tell her, thinking she'd be too confused because she had Alzheimer's. I always thought that was a bad decision.

My condolences.

Felicitas said...

Wow! More proof of how connected we really are to one another.

Ronda Laveen said...

DUTA: Yes, it is hard to make stuff up that is stranger than the real live truth. Our senses are so much keener than we really know.

JGH: My mother died from Alzheimer's too, so I know what you are talking about. Your husband's grandmother may very well have understood the loss of her sister.

Felicitas: Yes it is!